My autocorrect changed “Designing” to “Destining” when I first typed it. Seems appropriate. I have been thinking about my goals. Endlessly. But something odd happened at work that made me think a little harder. My 40 before 40 goals are tangible, as they should be.…
While looking back over my procrastination post, I came across a simple, yet powerful thought. Why?
The Inc.com article I stumbled across stated “If you’re struggling to get something done, why not spend a few minutes thinking more deeply about exactly why you want to do it.”
It’s remarkably easy to forget. So if you’re putting something off, I want to you ask yourself three whys.
Why am I doing this?
Why does it matter?
Why does it matter to me?
It sounds as though these three questions would all have the same answer, but they may not. For example, I want to do better meal planning. I have not been successful but I haven’t tried very hard, either.
Why am I doing this? I want to be more organised and eat more healthy food.
Why does it matter? Well, at the moment we get home, I feel lazy and make what’s easy. Or, I spend 20 minutes making up my mind what to make, which may or may not be healthy, and by the time I’ve prepped it, made it, eaten it and washed up I feel as though my entire evening has gone.
Why does this matter to me? If I can do it, I’ll feel as though I have more time in the evenings, we’ll both be eating better, I’ll feel more relaxed and we’ll probably save money by only buying what we need instead of random purchases. We have about 12 different jars of pasta sauce in the cupboard. That’s what happens without a plan.
That’s my motivation to get on with it. I want that zen feeling in both my brain and my pantry.
So why haven’t I been successful? Well, I’m trying to work that one out. Let’s have another look at those reasons:
- Poor time management. I don’t think this is the key issue
- Boredom or disinterest. Warmer. I’m not excited by cooking. Baking, yes. Dinner, no.
- Being lost or feeling overwhelmed. No, because I’ve started well enough, I just don’t follow through.
- Negative brain images. Maybe a little. I don’t want to make something that’s inedible.
- Lack of experience in the subject, or lack of experience in managing oneself. Well, this is part of it. I have no idea what I’m doing
Okay, so that’s it. I’m not interested, I don’t know what I’m doing and don’t have faith that it will work anyway. Ugh, what negativity!
To combat this, I’ll neutralise the negative thoughts. I have made a few freezable/reusable meals in the slow cooker that hubby and I both liked. I saved them to a Pinterest board. They are proven to be good, so I shouldn’t worry about making something inedible. I just need to try a few more meals so that I can stick to those that we’ve pre-approved.
If I focus on slow cooker meals, I can develop more confidence. After all, it’s pretty hard to mess up a meal in a slow cooker. Yes, it might be a little repetitive to have so many soups and stews, but it’s just while I settle into a routine and grow some faith in myself.
Next, it’s the interest. There’s only one way to find out if I can develop an interest in meal planning. And that is to actually do it.
Boy-meets-girl, both meet career expectations. This is not another review about how La La Land is a nostalgic escape from the political turmoil of the day. Nor is it about how the film is a saccharine example of why the world is so polarised.…
I don’t understand myself sometimes. For example, I’m currently feeling enthused and motivated to throw myself into my new job. At the same time, I’m also feeling overwhelmed to the point of paralysis. I have work in front of me that makes me feel excited, but I’m not doing it. Why?
The reasons why people procrastinate
- Poor time management – you’re just not aware of how much time you have in relation to what you’re wanting to do
- Boredom or disinterest – avoiding doing the unpleasant
- Being lost or feeling overwhelmed, not knowing where to start
- Negative brain images – perfectionism, fear of success/failure, negative and “all-or-nothing” thinking
- Lack of experience in the subject, or lack of experience in managing oneself
There are techniques of combating procrastination, but I even delay treating my procrastination because it has such a good side effect.
I get so much other stuff done!!
During the time in which I should have been reading a policy document and creating a flowchart to match, I finished two blog posts, sent out quote requests to a bunch of party DJs, read the news headlines, took a brisk walk in the sunshine and booked myself in for a lunch date with a friend. I did all those tasks quickly and vigourously. However, now I feel like a nap, it’s been an hour and I still haven’t read the damn policy.
Ideas for procrastination obliteration
- Practical ideas from the University of Cambridge
- Slightly more philosophical ideas from Inc.com
- Productivity apps such as Productivity Challenge
- Use your learning style to keep your brain focused
Any other recommendations? Add yours to the comments.