Hubby sometimes thinks out loud and thinks it’s a conversation. This week it was about exercising. The “conversation” started as “let’s join a gym” and ended with “gyms don’t work for me”. I wasn’t actually in that conversation at all!

I know that he will do this, and that the true topic of conversation won’t appear until the end, so I often don’t say much. Usual introvert habit. But the downside is that sometimes hubby thinks I’m not interested, not paying attention or not being helpful. Not the case! I’m Just in the habit of not getting involved until I need to.

I think it’s a good thing. It worked for me, otherwise I would have either said “YES, I’d love to join the gym”, or “Why on earth would you even suggest that, you’ve told me so many times that you hate gyms”. Neither would have fit the ol’ “THINK” mantra:

Before you speak, THINK…

T – is it True?
H – is it Helpful?
I – is it Inspiring?
N – is it Necessary?
K – is it Kind?

True, yes. None of the others. Sometimes the introversion saves me from pointless attitude. Sometimes it’s just a case of riding out the conversation. I won in the end – we got a shiny new rowing machine!

Cover image from Pixabay.

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