It can be very hard to buy a gift for an introvert. If it’s for someone you haven’t known for long they may not have opened up much, so you may not know any of their likes or hobbies. If you’re trying to win a quiet someone over on Valentine’s Day or make a good impression at work with a great Secret Santa gift for that aloof colleague, here are some ideas that might help!
If you are an introvert and have any other suggestions, let me know and I’ll add it in! Let’s start getting gifts we want!
Everyone loves a good notepad and pen set, particularly introverts who prefer words to be written rather than spoken. The amount of stationery available is so exquisite, so varied, so addictive it’s almost a fetish. Introverts think a lot, often about too many things at the one time, so we like to feel organised whenever we can. Organisers, pen sets with specialty post-its, bulldog clips – all of these things can give an introvert mind a sense of order and calmness.
Who doesn’t like curling up on the sofa with a book? This is one of the textbook images of an introvert! Although introverts already feel very comfortable at home, that doesn’t mean you can’t make things even cosier! Think blankets, slippers and the much-maligned, but truly satisfying, snuggle blanket.
If the standard box of chocolates doesn’t seem impressive enough, get a little more creative! Luxury Thorton’s (my favourite brand of chocs!), quirky tea packs, international coffees or chocolate coated coffee beans – yum!
Chances are your introverted companion has some hobby they enjoy at home. Do a little digging and find out what it is. Guitar, photography, quilting, etc. If you can’t find out, don’t worry. Being intense thinkers means that introverts are interested in learning about pretty much anything. Buy almost any how-to book and it will be devoured! If you’re still not sure, go for one on mindfulness or meditation. Both are great methods of restoring an overworked introvert mind.
Ways to hide
Sometimes an introvert just wants to hide from the world. A Fortress of Solitude is a little hard to come by, but sunglasses, headphones and hoodies are an affordable alternative! I’ve thrown a birdhouse in there too. They are a lovely way for introverts to enjoy watching wildlife from the comfort of their own home!
Things to get an Introvert to go out
If you can’t bear the thought of encouraging introverted behaviour with the gift of staying indoors, you can give a supportive “get out there” gift that an introvert will actually use. Local walking guides, membership to National Trust or National Parks
Firstly, there’s the lazy, but loved, voucher option. Vouchers and gift certificates. I know, it’s a bit of a cop-out. So avoid the obvious choices and find one from a specialty store or for a non-intimidating experience. Homemade gifts from local markets or specialty stores (Etsy), theatre or wine-tour vouchers are good choices. There are still other good ideas if you want something more “gifty” – I was given a shopping bag years ago and I still use it all the time. Best Secret Santa gift I’ve had so far! And don’t forget clothing accessories. If you don’t know what colour to get, go neutral. But don’t be afraid to take a chance on something bolder 🙂
Introverts aren’t always shy, and we don’t all hate socialising! The main feature of introverts is that socialising drains our energy more quickly than for extroverts and we need time alone to refuel. It’s nothing personal. We just think too much and wear ourselves out!